Journey To The Fisher Five
A Heart Home From Haiti... our journey to bring her home...
Wednesday, May 19, 2021
Tuesday, August 25, 2020
Friday, April 20, 2018
Home...
That’s right we are home!
We got home on Tuesday, April 10 to this amazing crew of support!
It was a wonderful way to be loved on and cared for!
The Fisher Five Forever
I did a
I promised, and I want to keep that promise, to share some of our journey for those of you who have prayed and supported us along the way. I’ve been documenting lots of milestones through pictures on Instagram and Facebook so if you don’t follow me there, it would be a good step to do if you’d like to see the progression of this journey now that she is home. I really am going to try to do a better job of blogging at least for the first year but I can’t promise much because when I go back to work all bets are off. ;)
So, here we go....
The trip began on Thursday April 5th. It started off with a bang as we slept through my alarm and were awoken to a knocking on our door at 5:18am (18 minutes past our planned leaving time). For those of you who know how important it is for me to be on time, you can imagine the chaos that ensued. Alas, our dear friend Nick delivered us to the airport on time and we safely made it out of RDU on our 7:05 flight! The Lord then graced us with the opportunity to fortuitously meet another family adopting from the same orphanage as us waiting for the fight to Haiti (thanks Facebook!). We landed in Haiti around 1pm knowing we would pick up our visa at the Embassy on Friday and then be off to pick up Lonise forever! (FYI autocorrect always changes her name to Louise 😂). We knew that was our one final night to relax so of course it took 1 1/2 hours to get the room safe batteries changed before we could go out and about. It was a true Haiti experience (it involved lots of screw drivers when all that was needed was an allen wrench! HA). Our hotel was just what we needed, we had a true Haitian dinner and enjoyed the view of the lands. Check out these incredible houses in the mountain side!
Friday April 6th - Gotcha Day!
We were up bright and early for breakfast and our awesome driver was there precisely at 7:45! The plan was to head to the US Embassy to pick up her Visa and all our paperwork, stop for a few things at the grocery store and then head to the orphanage for a likely quick pick up/farewells and head back to the hotel for the remaining days! We arrived to the Embassy around 8:50 and it was oddly empty. They had told me they had a modified schedule that day but to come between 8:30 and 11 and we would be good! We hoped out of the car (no electronics allowed or I would have pictures) and headed up to the first security check point. The guard looked at me the following conversation ensued:
Guard: Why are you here?
Me: To pick up our daughters Visa.
Guard: Well we aren't really working today
Me: Smiling - I am here to pick up our daughters Visa.
Guard: We aren't really working today, do you have an appointment?
Me: They said to come anytime between 8:30 and 11:00.
Guard: Reluctantly sent us through
Security Checkpoint # 2 (Different security guard):
Guard: Why are you here?
Me: To pick up our daughters Visa.
Guard: Well we aren't really working today
Me: Smiling - I am here to pick up our daughters Visa.
Guard: We aren't really working today, do you have an appointment?
Me: They said to come anytime between 8:30 and 11:00 so I am here to pick up her Visa.
Guard: Sighs, picks up the phone, speaks in Creole and then motions us through the metal detectors.
It appeared as if they were training workers that day because we passed an American giving a tour explaining a new mural designed to promote the stoppage of gender based violence in Haiti. We headed over to the assigned counter (#25) and waited for them to finish a group meeting. I hoped over to the restroom and they were ready for me when I got back. The US side of the adoptions process at the Embassy was THE kindest group of people in the process. They were truly amazing! 5 minutes later, she hands us all our paperwork and a lollipop and this mama had tears in my eyes!
We headed out, off to the store for water, bread and peanut butter (to not eat out so much) and a few other things. We then hoped in our car and had the quickest journey to our orphanage to date! We stepped out of the car and it was just like it was 16 months before, eerily similar! We walked in, were surrounded by lots and lots of Little's and then I began a fairly complex conversation with our translator and and orphanage worker about a mix up regarding the last piece of documentation we needed. I will save that story for another day but suffice it to say it caused our visit to the orphanage to be about 3 hours long of waiting, wondering and some undue stress!
While in the midst of discussing, Daniel was down with the kiddos and I hear "Jennie"... and then another little girl starts tapping my leg and she and Daniel are both saying "Lonise". Little bit had snuck into the middle of the chaos and was just standing there. I stopped talking, bent down, said Bonjou Baby, kissed her sweet cheek and picked her up.
It was NOTHING like we anticipated, but since when has this journey been? Here is our first picture together! I cropped out a dear blessing on this journey that we will share about one day!
I have so much more to share, but it's late... please stay tuned as I plan to blog more about these first two weeks soon!
Wednesday, March 21, 2018
Almost Home...
We are ALMOST THERE! We received our USCIS approval and now are waiting on her VISA and then we get to go bring our little one home!
Ya'll this is HAPPENING!
Through this process, we have been blessed with your support, prayers, and encouragement, and we know you are almost as excited as we are for this homecoming! Thank you for all you’ve done to make this dream come true for us, but our journey is just beginning! We have been reading and talking with our adoption caseworker about how to help ease our daughter's transition, and we’d like to share with you some insights we’ve learned. We pray you take a few minutes to read this, ask us questions beforehand and know a little more about what the next step of our journey will be like.
We have come to understand that for us, this is a joyous forming of a family, but for her, this change can be a significant trauma. She is about to be taken from the only home and “family” she has ever known and put into the arms of people who are strangers to her. We understand that we will have to parent her differently, so she will bond with us and learn to trust us. We are asking for your help as we adjust to our “new normal,” and here are some suggestions for you to help us:
Thank you for all you have done for us as we Journey on to officially become the Fisher Five!
Ya'll this is HAPPENING!
Through this process, we have been blessed with your support, prayers, and encouragement, and we know you are almost as excited as we are for this homecoming! Thank you for all you’ve done to make this dream come true for us, but our journey is just beginning! We have been reading and talking with our adoption caseworker about how to help ease our daughter's transition, and we’d like to share with you some insights we’ve learned. We pray you take a few minutes to read this, ask us questions beforehand and know a little more about what the next step of our journey will be like.
We have come to understand that for us, this is a joyous forming of a family, but for her, this change can be a significant trauma. She is about to be taken from the only home and “family” she has ever known and put into the arms of people who are strangers to her. We understand that we will have to parent her differently, so she will bond with us and learn to trust us. We are asking for your help as we adjust to our “new normal,” and here are some suggestions for you to help us:
- We would love for you to meet us at the airport, but please keep in mind that we will have just been through a very long week and put her in a really loud machine that flies (likely to be a little odd) that likely has been stressful for all of us. I can imagine we will not be at our best- ha! So we welcome your grace, hugs for us and our other kiddos and forgive us if we are cranky :).
- We expect to try and “cocoon” for several days or even several weeks (or change our mind on how long). We know we need time to settle into our routine and to get to know one another. She has to realize that WE are her new normal and the people that will meet her needs, not all the people coming in and out who may or may not come back (like currently happens at her orphanage). Please let us know if you want to come visit and please don’t be insulted if we decline a visit or ask you to leave after a short stay. It's not personal, it's just sometimes needed! It may also be fine and welcome (again grace needed here).
- We know you want to love on our new daughter, but please help us establish our family as the ones who will meet her needs. No hugs and kisses from you (until we green light it) – hugs and kisses are reserved for mommy and daddy only! You can absolutely offer a fist bump, a high five, or a sweet wave. We want her to develop healthy relationships and boundaries with all of our friends and family!
- Please feel free to offer help. Text us and ask what we need from the grocery store; bring us a hot meal (I know a meal train is being set up so we can connect you there). We know we need to accept help; anything we let you do for us will leave us more time and energy to devote to our new family of 5.
- Don’t forget our other girls. They are likely to feel like they are missing out on the attention they used to get and would welcome the chance to go out for ice cream/cake pops/play date with you. Offer to take our girls to church or to their sports’ practice. We want to keep their lives as normal as possible, but we may have our hands full with our new little one, so any help you can offer is appreciated.
- We will likely need empathy and a listening ear, without judgment or just a break for one of us to get away! There are times we may need to talk, vent, question or cry. Just keep being the awesome support system you are!
Thank you for all you have done for us as we Journey on to officially become the Fisher Five!
Tuesday, March 21, 2017
Bonding Trip Day 1 and 2
3 Months... It's been over three months since this day but I finally had the chance to review at least day 1 and 2 of the journal I wrote from our bonding trip... so I am ready to share. The way I captured things changed as the time goes on but this was my documenting day 1 and 2 the night of day 2. My goal in all these writings was to capture our journey. Every moment and detail is so precious to us even it if might be mundane to the world. I am not sure how long it will take to review the rest as it is just emotionally hard; however, I promise they are coming!
Thank you for journeying with us :)
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Bonding Trip Day 1 and 2 -
So many words. So many feelings. So many things to be thankful
for. Such confirmation.
I am not sure I can adequately capture them all or capture them
accurately but I want to try and at least preserve as many of my jumbled thoughts
as I can.
These moments are too priceless not too. There are too many days
ahead to try and remember them all so alas here we go…
Day 1 - We said farewell to our first two
daughters bright and early at RDU. Thankful for loving family taking care of
them, knowing they are in good hands from everyone helping, but also
bittersweet saying good bye for so long. Off we went to start our day of
travel. It was a fairly uneventful day and we made it into Port Au Prince about
45 minutes late. We proceeded to immigration and Daniel grabbed us immigration
forms in French which I proceeded to mess up twice even with the help of some
very nice Haitians. Ah Well. We got down to the baggage area (which thankfully
we have both experienced so we knew what was to come)… chaos, missing bags, and
voila thankfully Daniel knew the trick and found our last bag “off to the
side”. We worked our way through to
customs and then see a gentleman holding sign with my name and our hotel up and
we were quickly whisked into the hotel shuttle and were off. Not more than 5
minutes later we were checking in and super thankful to have chosen a hotel
with AC, a warm shower and a king bed (albeit a VERY hard one).
We settled in and then had the immense blessing to have dinner
with another family in the adoption process from our same agency and orphanage.
What we were hesitant just a bit about at first, being that we were exhausted,
turned out to be the BEST decision. So grateful for their hearts, their wisdom
and their willingness to share life with us that night. So awesome to meet
people on this similar journey with you.
We finished up dinner and came back to our room to sort through
our things to figure out what the heck we wanted to take on day one. She is so
young, and it’s been so long, we really just didn’t know so we packed what we
thought would be best, reorganized and then skyped our precious girls in the
states and hit the sack. For a bed that feels like plywood boards, we slept
like rocks!!!
Day 2 - started with a fantastic filling
breakfast of fresh fruit, bread and then a yummy ham and cheese omelet (thanks
to our friends for the tip)! We came back to our room, grabbed our bags and
waited for our driver and translator to arrive. A good mommy brain moment
ensued when we were waiting and I looked down and realized I still had on my
flip flops (aka not good orphanage shoes!). A quick change and I was all set.
Haiti traffic is unpredictable so our ride was a bit late, but again we know that
is just how it happens in Haiti so not shocked. The normal vehicle which has AC
and tinted windows that our agency normally utilizes was in the shop so a
well-loved, no A.C. vehicle was our ride for now and our journey to meet our
precious daughter began. We made a pit stop at a local store (decorated with a
self-creating snow blowing Christmas tree) to pick up our water for the day and
we were off. The car was playing The First Noel and it was simply surreal. We
laughed, smiled and just soaked it in! We navigated through Haiti. Words are
not very accurate for the traffic, the sights, the smells, the landscape. It is
so foreign yet so familiar. As Daniel said to me, it just feels good to be
back, not quite home, but good.
We traversed the muddy, rocky bumpy roads out into the more rural
area where the orphanage is located and shortly pulled in. It’s an impressively
large building, gated in, dogs, chicken coop, rocks not sure what I was
expecting so not sure if this met or didn’t meet my expectations. It just is.
It’s her home. It’s a place that will forever be part of our story.
We got out of the car and a swarm of children came out asking
“who?” because they knew were someone’s mama and papa. We told them and they
pulled us to her room. The nannies took her out of her crib, a room with 16
beds and likely 20 babies, and proceeded to freshen her up for us. New diaper,
new outfit, creamed and powdered. As we
were waiting, Daniel pointed to a freshly painted mural outside her room
(painted the week after we were matched) that reads “You are my hiding place,
you protect me from trouble. You surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah.
Pslam 32:7.” And we were floored. Right outside her door is the name. The name
we have prayed over since we started this journey in August 2013. Selah.
Her name. (Not sure where in her name, but part of her name for sure). What an
incredible gift, what a blessing to have those words. He is faithful. His
timing is perfect.
They then handed her to our translator who was in the room who
said “Maman Ou - your Mama, and then
handed her to me!” She snuggled right up onto my chest, and I melted ya’ll. I
just can’t even. My heart, right here in Haiti. We all moved up to the third
floor balcony which is reserved mostly for visiting adoptive families, which is
where we spent most of our day. We got settled with a handful of other littles
hovering around and just snuggled. This is all so new to her. This was likely
her first time upstairs. We were new. All was new.
After a bit of cuddle time, and Daniel playing with some of the
other kids (soccer, peek-a-boo, coloring tic-tac-toe etc.), and then he
cuddling her, we got out some toys. She held a little plush baby for a bit but
a little baseball rattle and a grippable ball with holes were the big hit. She
gripped them tight for most of the day. I was thirsty a little while later and
when she saw my bottle she started crying (well more wimper crying). I thought
she might be thirsty and showed her sippy cup but she wimpered more. (I now realize it was because she still uses
a bottle). I offered her some of mine and her sweet self did her best to drink
the water bottle like a bottle! (Oh mommy fail for no bottle today). She
snuggled some more and I just had this feeling she wasn’t feeling well. I knew
she would be snuggly, but she felt warm and the next thing I new I said, I
think she might need a new diaper. I look down and, yep. There was some milky
liquid. So I grab the diaper mat, lay her down and man oh man did she need a
new diaper. She had a massive blowout. I proceeded to do my best to clean her
up and was going to take off her outfit because it had gotten dirty. Mommy
mistake #2 for the day was standing her up to take it off without a diaper. The
next thing we know there is diarrhea everywhere, yep, straight out and all over
the floor and changing pad. Awesome. NOT!!! We did our best to clean up what we
could, got her in a too big diaper, picked up the gross mess (now have bags for
dirty diapers tomorrow), and headed down to her nanny. I told our translator
she felt hot and so the nanny called the nurse who took her temp, got her
medicines for her fever and diarrhea, a clean outfit and a bottle of pedialyte
which she chugged down! Daniel proceeded
into a wash room to try and clean the diaper pad to the best of his ability and
we all went back upstairs.
Our sweet girl proceeded to fall asleep in my arms for some much
needed rest and our translator kept the rest of the kids at bay (minus one of
the older girls who quietly colored with some markers and paper we had packed –
thanks Laura!). It was a nice time of rest and comforting our precious
daughter. When she woke up we only had a little bit of time left. She seemed to
be feeling a bit better and she lay on my legs looking at up us with her
beautiful brown eyes. Just going back and forth between Daniel and I, who knows
what her precious little self was thinking but we were falling deeper in love
each moment. Daniel took her into his lap for the last few minutes of our time
and we got her to start grabbing at a little duck finger puppet! It was her
first real attempt at interacting and of course it was then time to go! We took
her back to her nanny, waved bye bye and we were off back into way worse
traffic than before… Haitian traffic puts American traffic to shame. Seriously.
It’s a wonder there are not accidents every two minutes but they amazingly
navigate it seamlessly.
A quick (or not so quick) stop to buy diapers (her size which are
one smaller than I brought), bottles, diaper trash bags, bread, peanut butter
and jelly and water and we were headed back to our hotel.
Wow. What a day. Thankful, blessed, overcome and in awe.
Friday, December 9, 2016
Bonding Trip
We are on day six of our bonding trip and so in love and so confident that this is the journey we are to be on and she is our daughter....
I had planned to blog every day but decided to privately journal instead. These are such precious, yet exhausting days that we want to treasure forever. When we get home I will edit them into shareable versions as we are so thankful for each of you journeying with us!
Please keep the prayers coming!!!
Thus photo was on Wednesday :)
Wednesday, November 23, 2016
How can you help?
Since many of our friends and family have asked "How can we help you in a tangible way right now as you head to Haiti?" (outside of the prayers we continually need for us, for her, for our girls etc.) we wanted to get something up!
As we prepare for our upcoming trip we would welcome your support in helping us get some supplies for our little one and her orphanage. If you would like to purchase any of the items below, please just get them to us by Friday December 2nd.
If you would prefer to send us funds to purchase items here or in Haiti (example we will buy diapers there because they take up so much suitcase space), or to help cover the cost of our trip (currently at $3455 not counting food and in-country expenses) please let me know. You can donate to us directly, send us a check or I can get you my email and you can donate via paypal directly.
If you also just want to support our holistic adoption journey and the expenses remaining (not just supplies or the cost of this trip), feel free to click the "support our journey" tab above.
If you would prefer to send us funds to purchase items here or in Haiti (example we will buy diapers there because they take up so much suitcase space), or to help cover the cost of our trip (currently at $3455 not counting food and in-country expenses) please let me know. You can donate to us directly, send us a check or I can get you my email and you can donate via paypal directly.
If you also just want to support our holistic adoption journey and the expenses remaining (not just supplies or the cost of this trip), feel free to click the "support our journey" tab above.
Please know this is simply a response to people tangibly asking how they can help and not a pressure for support. We appreciate your prayers, support and words of encouragement as we continue our journey to officially becoming The Fisher Five!
Please keep us posted if you plan to send any of the items so we can space plan our bags accordingly!
Specific Requests from our orphanage right now:
If you would like to pray for us specifically in the coming month below are a few specific requests:
Please keep us posted if you plan to send any of the items so we can space plan our bags accordingly!
Specific Requests from our orphanage right now:
- Formula for the babies (not expired)
- Powdered Milk
- Protein (Beef Jerky)
- Vitamins (Infant Drops, Chewable and Gummies)
- Pedialyte Packets
- Cleaning Supplies (Clorox Wipes, etc.)
- Clothes - all sizes
For Daniel and I to take:
- 30 miniature scented hand sanitizers (gifts for the nannies) (example: Bath and Body)
- Cliff Bars/Protein bars/High Protein trail mix (multi flavors)
- Gatorade Packets
- Mini Packs of Hand Wipes
If you want other ideas, just let us know! If by chance we get more than we can take this trip we can always take it next time! Thanks again for your love and support.
If you would like to pray for us specifically in the coming month below are a few specific requests:
- Protection and good health for us and the girls and our families while we are apart
- Strength to love and serve our new daughter and the kids and staff at the orphanage for 2 weeks
- That we would find our rest in Him as we seek to daily trust in His plans
Jennie and Daniel
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